Every now and then, you find an author that says something so clearly!  I love this article because it helps us understand that rather than thinking about how we should make our kids “happy”, we want to think too about what will help them to grow and grow up into great adults.   Allowing them natural consequences and not trying to give our children “everything” helps them to be better adults.

When I look back at some of the struggles my own children had, I can see clearly now how those struggles served them.

A great article with some interesting ideas for all of us to think about.  Happy Halloween!

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This article published by Justin Carper of the shelbystar.com.  

Justin Carper is a writer, blogger, husband, father, and youth leader in Shelby. Read more at JustinCarper.com, or email him at mjcarper@gmail.com.

Published: Monday, October 28, 2013 at 08:57 AM.

If you have kids, are around kids, or vaguely recall seeing a lot of really short people running around, then you have inevitably heard a child ask their parents, “Why?”

As the father of a three year old, I hear this more times than I can count. This inquisitive nature is not exclusive to three-years-olds, however. This “why” mentality is something we all deal with on a daily basis.

As parents, it is imperative that we teach our children the difference between right and wrong. We want them to know what things are culturally acceptable and what things are frowned upon.

Parenting, in my opinion, is a lot like golf. If you have ever watched it on television, it looks incredibly easy. It is only when you decide to play for yourself that you discover it is quite the opposite. Everything you thought you had learned by watching the pros goes out the window.

While I am not a golfer, I know that the object is to get your ball into a hole, but not just any hole. If you tee off on hole number two, you must get your ball into the cup on the second green.

Parenting is similar in that we have a particular direction in which we are aiming.

It doesn’t matter whether you realize it or not; you are aiming your children towards something. Just as the golfer intentionally moves his ball towards the green, we are prodding our kids towards something.

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